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Mirrors Lie (And So Do Quick Fixes)

I met a girl at the gym. Beautiful—really. Slim,glowing, full of life, the kind of presence that turns heads without even trying. We chatted while stretching, and she told me, "I’ve been coming here for so long… but the pounds won’t come off." I paused. “What pounds?” I asked. “You look incredible. You don’t need to lose weight—unless you want to feel stronger or tighter. That’s different. But there’s nothing to lose.” She smiled, but you could see it in her eyes. She couldn’t hear it. For some reason, she still saw pounds that didn’t exist. And I thought to myself—how many of us are walking around haunted by pounds no one else sees?

The mirror lies. It plays tricks. It magnifies flaws and shrinks joy. It tells stories about us that aren't true. And if we could step outside ourselves, even for a moment—see our reflection the way someone who loves us sees us—what stupid, hurtful choices we might avoid. Before I could say more, she looked down and said, “I only have one option left. I’m going to start Ozempic.”
I reached out gently: “Wait. Don’t rush. Don’t do this to your body. Not yet.”But she was already gone. And my heart sank a little. Not because I think medication is evil. Not because I want to shame anyone’s choices. But because I know what it’s like to feel so desperate for a fix that you forget the only thing that needs healing isn’t your weight—it’s your relationship with yourself.

It’s like a cult. The skinny cult. Even the thinnest people think they have “just a few more pounds” to lose. It’s a race with no finish line—and no one wins. Because the trick was never about the number on the scale.The real magic? It’s feeling good in your body. Light—not in size, but in spirit. Strong—not in appearance, but in energy. Clear—not in rules, but in intention.When you treat your body with care. When you feed it with nourishment instead of fear. When you listen instead of punish—It responds. Not just in how it looks…but in how it feels to live inside of it. That’s the shift no mirror can show you—but your soul will feel it, every step of the way.The cult of skinny. The belief that you must look a certain way, weigh a certain number, fit into a specific box to be accepted or happy. But we’re not doing that here. We’re gently breaking the cycle. Because we’re not chasing skinny—we’re choosing to feel good. We’re not punishing our bodies—we’re feeding them with love, nutrition, and care. And guess what happens when you do that? Your body whispers back “thank you.”
In the glow of your skin. In the swing of your hips. In the lightness you feel—not just on the outside, but in your spirit. We don’t start with the scale. We start with kindness. And we go from there.

So if you must, cover up the mirror for a while.
Because the mirror lies. But your soul? It always tells the truth.

Inside, of my book I share how to take a smooth, gentle path toward a better you—one honest page at a time.

What is the REASON?

Why do you overeat?

Pause. Ask yourself, really ask: What is the REASON?

Maybe it’s because when you're stuffed, you feel alive.
Maybe it's because the fullness gives you a break from feeling empty. Maybe it’s a moment of control in a life that feels chaotic.
Maybe it’s simply comfort, safety, habit. There are no wrong answers here. No one is listening but you.
This is a conversation between you and you.

Be truthful.
Because when you finally tell yourself the truth, your life will begin to transform. Your body will respond.
It will show you the deeper reason—the real reason.

Now ask yourself:
What are you afraid of? Why does transformation scare you?
What would happen if you finally went THERE—the place where it hurts, the place you’ve been avoiding?

You have to go.
You’ve waited long enough. And now, you have a chance.
Take it. It might never come again.

Be honest with yourself.
Stand in your truth. It might hurd a lot but you know what the pain isn’t a setback — it’s a door and crying is proof you are opening it.
And watch the magic happen—the kind of magic you may have never experienced before. Once you empty out space in your stomach you let other things to come in your life. They always wanted they just didn't have the space.

You are more ready than you know. 🌟

My book might guide you to the gentle path toward a better you—one honest page at a time. It is there waiting for you

Create Your Own Path (Not the Crowd’s)

We live in a world where it’s easy — too easy — to believe that if something worked for someone else, it must work for us too.
We’re surrounded by “before and after” pictures, viral advice, and “easy” success stories that make it feel like the map has already been drawn. The picture you see — the influencer smiling, the six-pack abs, the caption promising “just take this pill” — all we have to do is follow it, right?

Wrong!

It’s not the full story. What you don’t see is the years of hard work, discipline, setbacks, and starting over again and again. Real change doesn’t come in a bottle. It comes from consistent, often unglamorous effort. I see those ads all the time and honestly, I laugh — because that's all they are: just ads, just marketing. And I’m not here to crush your hope — I’m here to protect it.
The people who truly succeed — not just for a moment, but for a lifetime — are often the ones who didn't follow the crowd. They carved their own paths. They moved forward blindly sometimes — guided only by a goal, a hope, a feeling that there was something more for them. They didn’t wait for permission.They learned by doing.
They figured out what worked for them. No one else — them. And that's where the difference lies.

When you live your life by chasing what’s popular, you’re running after a moving target. Social media makes this even harder.
Instagram, YouTube, TikTok — they show you end results, not the real journey. You see the polished photos, the smiling faces, the milestones achieved. But you don’t see the sleepless nights, the anxiety, the constant second-guessing behind the scenes.

Just recently, I watched a huge influencer — 2 million followers — admit in an interview that her biggest fear is social media itself.
She said she doesn’t even sleep at night anymore. Watching the phone all the time for likes.
If that's not a wake-up call, I don’t know what is.

The truth is, you have to find what works for you. This is why I wrote my book: To be a guide — not a rulebook. Take what speaks to you.
Leave what doesn’t. Build something that feels like home inside you, not something you wear like a costume.

And yes — while I’m writing this blog, I feel fear too.
I hear the voices that might say,"It came easy to her." "She shouldn’t have to work this hard.""Who is she to say anything?" But I’m still here.
I’m still writing. And that — that — is all that matters. Not perfection.
Not approval. Not followers. Courage. Consistency. And a little bit of hope. That’s how real paths are built.

One pill won't change your life, but one small decision, one honest step forward at a time, absolutely can. It’s harder, yes — but it’s real, and it’s worth it.

Inside, of my book I share how to take a smooth, gentle path toward a better you—one honest page at a time.

What is your WHY?

The question that can take you places… but the one we’re often too afraid to ask.

Pause. Really think about it.
Because I can promise you—you will revisit this question when times get tough. And I can also promise you—they will get tough.
(That’s not being negative. That’s being prepared.)

My WHY?

My parents struggled with being overweight. I’m not here to shame them. I love them. But I watched what it did to their lives—the surgeries, the pain, the daily struggle. Both of my parents had knee surgeries because of weight. I watched them have to relearn how to walk.
And I said out loud, loud enough that even my fear could hear me:

"I refuse to live like that."

That was the moment everything shifted.
It’s when I decided I would learn how to make a healthy lifestyle part of my daily routine—not a punishment, not a phase… but a way of living.
One choice at a time.One habit at a time.
Because I knew there had to be another way.

My grandmother, too—she developed a severe hump from a weak back and poor posture.
(Show me one athlete with bad posture? You won't find one. Their muscles are strong, tight) When I started to notice my own shoulders rounding forward? I ran to the gym. Because I knew what was at stake.
Not just my appearance—my freedom. My life.

Find your own WHY.

Get really scared if you have to. 😅 (Joking. But not really.)

Your WHY is your anchor. Come back to it as often as you need—until it feels like a quiet force within you.
Because when your reason is strong, your steps become steady.

One more story:

When I first started tennis lessons, I realized something funny—
everyone struggles with the passing shot. My teacher gave me one simple piece of advice:

"Keep your eyes on the ball.
Your hand will follow."

It stuck with me—not just for tennis, but for life.
Keep your eyes on the ball.
Stay connected to your WHY.
Keep it in your mind at all times and you body will follow.

That Picture in Your Head

I know you have that picture in your head—the one of the “perfect” you.
The version of you that feels so far away it almost hurts to look. But what if I told you… you can become her/him.)

Don’t close the tab just yet. Don’t roll your eyes and say, “What does she know?”
Just pause. Breathe. And listen—because this is the part no one ever told us: She’s already inside you.
She’s alive. And she’s waiting for you to connect with her. I know what you’re about to say.
You want to scream back all the reasons why you can’t. But not today. Today, just listen for one second.
Because I’m going to show you, step-by-step, how to meet her.

Ready? Let’s begin.

1. Find her.

Yes, find a photo of a woman (or man) you’d love to become.
It could be someone online. Or—get bold—pull out an old photo of you that still sparks something.

2. Connect every day.

As each day unfolds, start talking to her. Every morning say to yourself: “Every step I take, I’m walking toward her.”

At first, it might sound silly. You’ll wonder, “How will I find her? Where is she?” That’s just your mind doing what it always does—trying to keep you “safe.” But safe often means stuck in old patterns, old doubts, old limits. So you gently convince it. Not with force—but with repetition. That’s the magic. That’s the work. So simple. So challenging. So worth it.

Now, as you move through your day—ask yourself: Would she eat that? Would she nourish herself with real food or reach for what’s easy? Would she go to that chain restaurant just because it's familiar… Or would she treat her body with the deep respect it deserves? You already know the answer. You already know her she is you. You’ve just been waiting to remember.

3. Watch for signs.

They’ll start dropping. (They were always there—you just weren’t tuned in.)

Here’s a story:
When I was younger, I had a doll with the most beautiful figure.
And I told myself, “One day, I’ll look like that.”
I didn’t know how—I just knew. And then… weird things started happening. I’d hear conversations about healthy habits. I’d find books, tips, stories—all without searching. It’s like the universe said,“Ah, you’re ready. Let’s go.”

So now, I want you to be bold. Look in the mirror and say it: “I’m her.” Even if your voice shakes. Even if the tears rise up and your heart pounds. Say it anyway. Say it through the fear.

Say it out loud: “I’m her.”

As you go through your day, just hold the image of the person you’re becoming. See her clearly. Walk beside her. And if you need a little reminder, hum the tune:
“We belong together… yes, we belong together… for eternity.”

Let it be your quiet little promise to yourself. Because you do belong together. Always have.

And just like that—your transformation has begun.
She heard you. And she started to walk toward you.

Why Watching Isn’t Doing (And Why That Matters)

Everywhere you turn—there’s a “what I eat in a day” video, a workout reel, a morning routine. Visual. Polished. Addictive. You feel inspired… for a second.

But here’s what no one tells you: Your brain thinks you already did it.
That’s the trick. It gets a little dopamine hit—just by watching.
But your body? It’s still waiting.

It’s not your fault. This is how the brain is wired.
The mind loves visuals. It loves the idea of change. But transformation doesn’t happen from watching. It happens from doing.

Reading.Journaling.Planning your meals. Going for the walk.
Sitting with the discomfort instead of numbing it. That’s where change lives.

So today, I’m asking you to try something different:
Close the app.
Open a notebook.
Ask: What will I do today?

Don’t borrow someone else’s habits. Build your own. When you watch videos, you are living someone else's life instead of creating yours. Create your own satisfaction. That’s the only way this becomes real.

We see polished “after.”
But I’m here for the during. The messy. The uncertain. The brave, tiny steps. That’s where the magic is. Because that’s where we become. So get messy. Sweat a little. Cry if you must. Then keep going.

You don’t need to chase someone else’s “after.”Create your own. The one you’ve always dreamed of.

The old habits? They’re predictable. Comfortable. Even if they make you unhappy. The new way? You don’t know how it’ll feel yet.
So your brain resists. It calls it "hard."But really—it’s just unfamiliar. You don’t need more discipline.You need repetition.

The new path feels strange… until one day, it doesn’t. Until it’s yours. And you feel the shift. Like breathing fresh air after being underwater too long. Don’t give up just because it feels weird. You’re not broken. You’re retraining.

Transformation isn’t found in a scroll. It’s found in the space where you choose to show up.

For yourself. Again and again.

Summer Parties, Birthday Tables, and Endless Snacks: How to Show Up Without Losing Yourself

Summer means sunshine, celebration, and let’s be real—a lot of food. Between birthday parties, backyard BBQs, beach days, and late-night gatherings, it feels like food is the main event. But here's the truth: you don’t have to sacrifice your health goals every time someone lights a grill. And if there's one thing I've learned:
Never show up to a party hungry. Yes, I said it. I know what you're thinking—“But I'm going there to eat.” Nope. You're going there to connect. To talk. To laugh. To enjoy the moment. The food is a bonus not the boss of you.

Before You Go:

Eat a real meal before you leave.Think of food as fuel, not a reward. If it's an evening event, don’t “save up” all day. That only leads to overeating.

At the Party:

Scan the table. Choose what looks good and feels good. Pick your favorites—not everything. Don’t stand near the snack table. You’ll mindlessly eat even if you’re not hungry.

Mindset Shift:

You’re allowed to eat and enjoy—but you’re also allowed to say “no thanks.” A few good choices add up over the summer. Celebrate people, not plates.

Little Tip:

If you’re someone who loves sweets or chips, bring a small balanced snack in your bag just in case. Something that keeps you grounded—nuts, fruit, dark chocolate.

Yes, Have the Cake—And Actually Enjoy It

You don’t need to fear the dessert table.
Pick the one that speaks to you. Not because you feel pressured. Not because “this is your only chance.” But because you want it. Then—eat slowly. Let yourself notice the texture. The flavor. Even imagine the person who made it, the care behind it. This isn’t just about eating—this is about reconnecting. When you slow down, you create space to hear your body’s signals.

And While We’re Here—A Little Vacation Tip

You know those all-you-can-eat buffets at hotels? Here’s a little secret:
Don’t starve yourself all day just to stuff yourself at night.
That never works. Eat normally throughout the day. Then, when it’s buffet time—take a walk around first. Look at the colors. The textures. Take in the smells. Eat with your eyes first.
And just like that, the urgency fades. You’re no longer starving—you’re curious. Try a nibble of everything. Chew slow. Enjoy the flavors. Then wait. Your body will say, “That’s enough.”
And here’s the magic: you tried everything, and you’re not stuffed.
And I am so proud of you!

You’ll know when enough is enough—not because someone told you, but because your body speaks to you. Repeat that often enough, and something amazing happens:
You stop overeating, not because of control… but because of connection.

Let’s talk sugar. And let’s be real about it

Sugar isn’t the enemy—it’s which sugar, how much, and how often.

Your brain needs a little glucose. One spoon of raw cane sugar or coconut sugar in your morning coffee? That’s not the problem. In fact, coconut sugar tastes amazing (tip: it’s usually hidden on the bottom shelf!).

What is the problem? The hidden sugars.The processed kind. The fake “sugar-free” substitutes made in a lab. High fructose corn syrup. The ones you don’t even realize you’re eating—because they’re tucked inside flavored drinks, sauces, yogurts, cereals, and “healthy” bars. That’s why reading the label matters.

I know what you’re thinking: “ Shouldn’t the experts just tell me what’s safe?” But here’s the truth: They don’t live in your body.You do.
You are in control of your health—not a white lab coats.

Ladies.
Let’s talk about that time of the month. You want sugar? SAME. You’re not weak. You’re human. So be smart about it.
Keep a secret stash of good chocolate. (Yes, I said good.) Read the label. Real chocolate has:
Cocoa, Milk, Sugar (not too much)
That’s it. No “natural flavors,” no weird fillers, no ingredients you can’t pronounce. And guess what? You don’t need a fancy health store to find it. I found mine in a regular supermarket. Just $4 a bar.
That’s a good deal for peace, sanity, and something sweet when you need it most.

A little science here:

Do you think glucose is good or bad?

Most people don’t realize your brain runs on it.
But it’s not an excuse to eat candy while studying.

The trick?
Choose foods that release glucose slowly (fruit, oats, dark chocolate).
Skip the sugar crashes from soda and candy. Your brain deserves better fuel.

So start small. Swap what you can. Get curious. Try coconut sugar or raw honey. Look lower on the shelf.

So here’s your mantra:
Not everything that tastes good is good for you.
But when you choose wisely?
It can be.Tape it on the wall. Read it every time you pass by. We’re not just eating—we’re learning. We’re paying attention now.